update kafka version used in testing to 3.6.0

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Proposed commit message

Updated kafka version used in our integration tests

Based on #41833

Checklist

• My code follows the style guidelines of this project
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• I have made corresponding changes to the documentation
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• I have added tests that prove my fix is effective or that my feature works
• I have added an entry in CHANGELOG.next.asciidoc or CHANGELOG-developer.next.asciidoc.

Disruptive User Impact

Kafka version 4.0 will not be compatible with client libraries using protocol version less than 2.1.0

Related issues

Closes #41654

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